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Our inner desire for friendship!

28 April 2012 2 Comments

Our desire for friendship, and to find someone who understands us and knows how to listen in our time of need, is part of our human nature and how we are made in the DNA of our being! We were not created to be alone and to live in solitude. God’s Word says that, after creating the first man, “God said, it is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a help meet for him” (Gen. 2:18).

We all need “a help meet”! We all need someone who can make us feel loved, listened to and accepted just as we are, without having to wear a mask in order to be included in their midst! We all need a “family”, whether it be the one in which we were born, or one that we choose to live with those we love and wish to have with us for the rest of our life. No one is totally self-sufficient and capable of doing everything all alone! Even if we were, we would be miserable, because there wouldn’t be anyone to share the best of our life with!

The need for sharing with others is inborn within us! The first thing that a child does, after drawing something, is going to mom and dad to receive approval and be told: “BRAVO!” It’s spontaneous and natural! We all need to be told that we are doing the right thing… No point in pretending that we don’t, because it would be denying the obvious! Only pride prevents us from being like children and to accept ourselves as we are, as God created us!

Just as it is with our natural life, the one we have in common with all other human beings, it also applies to our spiritual life, the one we have in common with all other believers, those who like us are aware of the love that God has shown us through His Son Christ Jesus! We each need true loving friendship!

We shouldn’t think that we can be “independent Christians”! It would be as if one member of our body decided that he doesn’t need the rest of the body to survive! God’s Word says that “the body is not one member, but many”, and no one can tell others “I have no need of you “(1Cor 12:14-21)! This would be presumptuous and God warns us against this kind of pride, saying to each one of us “not to think of ourselves more highly than we ought to; but to think soberly, according as He has dealt to every man the measure of faith. For as we have many members in one body, and all members have not the same office: so we, being many, are one body in Christ, and every one members one of another” (Romans 12:3-5).

We need each other! We need true Christian friendship! It’s not enough to once a week attend church and listen to a sermon that we often can’t even remember the next day! In order to grow spiritually healthy and be complete in our walk with Christ Jesus, we need a “spiritual family“, a body of believers made of “members who have the same care one for another. And whether one member suffer, all the members suffer with it; or one member is honored, all the members rejoice with it” (1Cor 12:25,26).

This is our vision of a church or “Christian family”: a community of hearts who truly care for each other, who can enjoy one another and be there for each other in time of need, walking and growing together in “the joy of the Lord, which is our strength” (Nehemiah 8:10)!

Often, when Christians fail to find a community where they feel loved and accepted for who they are, but instead they feel judged and criticized because of their differences, the human reaction is to separate and choose to follow an “independent” path. This, however, does not help our spiritual growth, because “as the branch cannot bear fruit of itself, except it abides in the vine”, but “it withers ” (John 15:4-6), we also cannot spiritually survive on our own!

We need to stay in the vine, so that, following the “truth in love, we may grow up in all things into Him who is the head, even Christ; from whom all the body fitly framed and knit together through that which every joint supplies, according to the working in the measure of every part, makes the increase of the body unto the building up of itself in love” (Eph. 4:15,16).

It is not God’s will that we are alone! On the contrary, “God sets the solitary in families, and He brings out the prisoners into prosperity” (Psalm 68:6)!

If you cannot find a local community in which to feel loved and accepted for who you are, get in touch with us by writing to our email@renatoamato.com, or by leaving a comment below… We will be happy to welcome you into our family of “Healing Broken Hearts“!


  • Ben Stewart said:

    Brother Renato, Well communicated. There are times that we as human beings may retreat from the world as we seek greater wisdom from our Heavenly Father. Not that we necessarily are intentional in human separation; just moments of deeper reflection to hear His voice more clearly. Then we rise in the “living waters” of His love and grace. Embracing the beauty of His creation. You and Patrizia are such brilliant Emeralds of His divinity in love and fellowship. You both ALWAYS strengthen the human spirit. You are bountiful blessings of His love and brilliant reflections of His Light. Bless you. In love, Your dear brother, Ben

  • Chuck Conkling said:

    True words from each of you. As I am typing with one hand now, I will be brief but I wanted each of you to know what a wonderful influence you have been in my life. As Paul said in Philippians 1:3 (KJV)
    3, I thank my God upon every remembrance of you…Be Blessed!